Wayne Jacobsen

You’ll Thank Me For This!

Dallas Willard (The Divine Conspiracy) has been one of my favorite authors for some time. As a philosophy professor at USC, his view of God and his work in the world is breathtaking. I wouldn’t say we see everything in exactly the same way, but I always come away from reading his things greatly encouraged to live more deeply in Jesus, and having some excellent instructions on how to do that.

Admittedly some find his writings a bit too academic. That’s sad to me, because they are filled with such great life and wisdom. Recently I ran across an audio series of his at the Allelon website, that I hope everyone can benefit from. The title of the one I’ve listedn to is: Spiritual Formation in the Ways of Christ. This is good stuff on living a transformed life. Here are some of the things he said that I really appreciated:

We don’t build churches. We preach the kingdom, make disciples, bring them together in the presence of God and grow them and the church results.

The church: The people who have come to faith in Jesus Christ and are living together and dwelling with one another and allowing that mutual nurturing to happen….

What you really believe about Jesus Christ is shown by what you do after you learn you can’t do anything.

Spiritual formation is not learning to do the right things; it is becoming a different kind of person who will do different things. If you want to keep the law, don’t try to keep the law. Try to become the kind of person who would naturally keep the law.

If you want to hear the entire teaching, click here.

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Transitions, Again

What I love about Transitions being available free of charge is that I can pass on the work it is doing in others without others thinking I am only promoting something for sale. Already the mp3 files from this series have been downloaded almost 700 times. I am so deeply grateful for how this series is helping people find fresh ways to sort out Father’s work in their lives and to be renewed in their passionate pursuit of his life.

This email is from a brother in South Africa that has been deeply touched by the Transition series. I love his journey and know he speaks for many others. These kinds of stories are the reason t hat Father wanted to make it available…

After I finished listening to the Transition recordings today, I started to cry. Why? I really don’t know.

But, I talked to God about it and I think I have some idea now. About 4+ years ago my wife and I left the congregation where we had been. We came to a point where we decided that what we have been experiencing could not be what Jesus meant by a life lived in fullness. Basically, the whole time we had this one question that drove us “like a splinter somewhere in our minds?  Is this IT? Did Jesus die for this? Is there more? We needed more of Him. We knew that at least.

So we stopped. We wanted to see what in our lives is of God and what came out of ourselves. And it was a scary time. It meant confronting ourselves. Who were we? Why do we do what we do? From 1988 we followed hard after Christ, but something was amiss. Were we missing Him in all we did? And then slowly He started to flow through us. And each day after that is wonderfully full of Him. We have died to religion!!! We found the Author of Life!

But for me, it was a lonely road. We weren’t leaders in our congregation. So no one made a fuss when we left. We were the invisibles. It took the congregation 17 months to contact us, and ask us if we were still coming, or if they had to release us. Go figure. I told them that we are still part of the congregation, but that we do not go to the organized Sunday part. So they had to go figure. They never called after that again. But it was as if our Father had shut our mouths. We had no one to share the journey with. I became very cynical about the use of words. So even when we were among very good friends, we did not really share what was happening in and with us. It was very strange. Something wonderful is happening and we are not telling a soul. What does talking help anyway? As I think back now, we could not really give answers for what we were doing and experiencing. It’s this wonderful uncertainness. My wife and I talked a lot. What was God doing? We had no idea.

I went on the Internet and downloaded everything on the church. Thousands of pages. Everything from missionary groups, the mystics, traditional churches, house churches, Quakers, Anabaptists, Messianic movements, and all the stuff in-between. That’s how I found your website and then had the chance to meet you a in Johannesburg. You were the first person that put into words what we were experiencing. And that gave lots of comfort. And that is the reason why I cried yesterday. Your words and our experience matched about 95% of ours—a confirmation of sorts. And suddenly I did not feel so alone. Don’t get me wrong, I know we are not alone. (With our Father, it is actually impossible to be alone.) And we have friends with us on this journey, in all the different stages of it. But I always felt that in talking to them, would influence them to have my experience. And I wanted them to have their own journey. It]s so easy to nail down God’s life and give it to people in religion format. Your words did not give me religion; it affirmed what we have been experiencing. And since yesterday I have had a wonderful time with our Father. I don’t know if I have ever felt so safe. It was the realization that He trusts me to be me. He trusts me with His indwelling and He trusts me with whatever that means!

So this is a big THANK YOU! Thank you for sharing this on the Internet. It changed something in me, and I will never be the same.

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Giving Away the Store

OK, we’re not exactly doing that, but today I did upload the PDF file of the rewrite of my first book ever—The Naked Church. This was my first attempt to express my passion for the body of Christ in the world and how we’ve traded the realities of relationship for the burden and ineffectiveness of programs. My hope was that it would help people discover the life of the church not as they’ve always known it, but church as they’ve always believed it could be. Then we would come to recognize how we’ve sacrificed a vibrant intimate walk with Jesus for traditions, programs and institutions, and how we can recover his life again. I had no idea at the time where that little book would take me.

The first edition of this book was filled with anger and some of the answers it offered were as stuck in the religious mud as those things I was criticizing. I just didn’t know it then. In 1998 I rewrote that book in the Revised Third Edition that has been available since. Many people have found a kindred spirit in that book and a hunger to see the church emerge is the living body of Christ in the world. It freed them to believe that what Jesus had put on their hearts wasn’t an idealistic fantasy, but a calling of the Spirit to go beyond the status quo of our religious institutions and find the life that really is life.

Just yesterday I received the following email from a pastor in Alabama:

Just to let you know, I have read two chapters (of The Naked Church) so far and almost burst into tears. Not because I didn’t see all of this, just because someone else does. I could have almost written word for word what I have read so far. Thank you for putting it into print. I plan on reading the whole book in a short time, and I’ll email you back when I get to the end. God bless you, my brother.

I hope the book continues to stir people to a more passionate walk with God wherever you are in the world. You can download the PDF file here.

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Accountability In the Family

Care to read over my shoulder again? I received this email this morning. It poses a question I’ve been asked many times when I talk about the way religion seeks to hold people accountable, and how Father never asked us to do that. I love the way this question was asked and thought others of you might be interested in the answer:

Wayne, you say that Christians are not accountable to each other, but that we are each accountable to God. Could you explain what you mean by that? If you’ve already addressed this in a previous podcast or BodyLife article just give me the reference and you can move on to your million other emails.

To understand where I’m coming from, this is what I think of when I hear accountability:

1) James 5:16 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other. OK, so its hard to find a group today where this is “Safe” but it is the instructions we are given.

2) 1 Cor. 5 talks about “Putting Out” a brother who is guilty of a heinous sin. If you go to a “Sunday Morning Box” I understand this to mean the leadership asks you not to attend. If you are part of the “Boxer Rebellion” I guess you have to decide with whom to break fellowship. Either way it sounds like accountability of the sinner to the brethren.

3) Matt. 18 Instructs us how to deal with someone who sins against us. This also sounds like an accountability issue.

Can you see where I’m coming from? I must be misunderstanding something. Can you explain it to me?

I there there are two ways to interpret the Scriptures you’ve listed, even while embracing the truth in them.

One can confess, “break fellowship” or deal with sins using accountability components of enforced conformity, which is what I grew up with. Or, one can confess, break fellowship, or deal with sins out of a relational love that is ten times more powerful.

Accountability to me is the right to compel action and always forces those in power to manipulate others to their whim and desire. Scripture never use that term between brothers and sisters in the family, only between each of us and God. He’s the one to whom we give an account. We are called to love each other they way we’ve been loved. Love stands along side others with complete honest and affection and can accomplish all those things without the demand for conformity.

I guess the difference is a brother sitting beside you in the car asking you to slow down if you’re driving recklessly, or to let him out if you won’t stop, and a cop behind with red lights and siren. I’m not saying the later can’t be effective, and I’m grateful in a worldly sense that they are there. But by and large cops don’t transform behavior, they only conform it as long as they are present. As soon as they pull off the freeway, all the cars speed up again.

When Scripture tell us to owe no man nothing but simply to love each other, I think he discounts accountability as a means of fellowship. All the Scriptures you mention can easily and authentically be fulfilled by simply loving others around us. To me that means we treat them with affection, while still being honest with them in ways that convey grace. Even the last Scripture you refer to invites us to treat them as tax collectors or sinners, which were people Jesus hung out with. He was able to love those folks, just not let them live in the pretense of having a faith they did not truly follow. So the end was not to banish them from our hearts, but not let them pretend fellowship while we continue to love them.

Having lived this way now for a number of years, I find far more healthy confession, honesty and confrontation go on with compassion and affection than ever happened with accountability models. Those only offered an illusion of self-made religion, without helping the heart be transformed by the power and love of Christ. And it is his love and revelation that transforms people, not “holding each other accountable” to standards that our flesh cannot fulfill.

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A Book for All Times?

I got a good laugh out of this and thought you might as well. A Christian bookstore owner from upstate Wisconsin sent me the following email:

I’ve been meaning to share something I thought you might be blessed by (or at least get a kick out of it). We’ve been stocking your books in our store and recommend He Loves Me! whenever we get the chance. My wife & I were talking the other day about the degree to which we have come to recommend He Loves Me! When we first started to carry it, we would try to get a feel for each customer, and if they seemed to be looking for something specifically in the realm of your book.

Then the scope seemed to naturallly get bigger and bigger…

  • “Hi, I’m looking for something that might help me understand the love of God better.” …”Well, allow me to recommend ‘“He Loves Me!
  • “Yes… I’m looking for something to help me in my Christian Walk” …”Have you heard of He Loves Me!?”
  • “Hello, I’m looking for a book to help me with Holiness” …”Take a look at He Loves Me!
  • “Yeah, do you have any good books for Women?” …”I’d recommend He Loves Me!
  • “What would be a good Men’s book?” …”Check out He Loves Me!‘”
  • “Have a good marriage book?” …”Yep. He Loves Me!
  • “Do you have any books to help me my finances?” …”Of course we do…it’s called He Loves Me!
  • “Any books which would help me organize my time better?” …”He Loves Me!
  • “Do any of your books tell me if my pet fluffy will be in Heaven?” …”Yes, I think that’s addressed in He Loves Me!
  • “How about a book on a better way to change diapers?”…”You should try, He Loves Me!
  • “Hi…I’m looking for a book to…oh wait, let me guess, you’d recommend He Loves Me!, right?” … “Um, well, yes.”

Of course this is an exaggeration, but I think you get the point. Your book is also the #1 book we give away. So many have already been blessed by it through our tiny little shop. Just thought you should know.

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Reveling in the Freedom to Follow

By Wayne Jacobsen
BodyLife • July 2006

To be honest, most of the mornings I lived bogged down by the demands and agendas of religion, I woke up defeated. I’d look at the clock dreading what the day might hold and wondering how I could get everything just right so God could do incredible things around me. Don’t hear that wrong. I loved God. I was as passionate for him as I am now, but I was also exhausted all the time. There were so many things to fix, so many people to see and so many meetings I had to prepare for.

I prayed hard each morning for God to bless this or save me from that. Most of the time my prayers didn’t seem to make any difference. It was horrible. No matter how well I did on any given day, I always fell short of my own expectations. On my best days I broke even, on most days I felt incredibly frustrated, either by my own failings or, conversely, how inactive God seemed to be. But I didn’t know there was any other way.

When I think back to those days now, they seem like a distant nightmare after waking up fully. It seems only a distant memory. Now I awaken every morning in the excitement of an unfolding adventure in the life of Jesus. (You have to keep in mind I’m a morning person!) Now my first thoughts in the morning are thoughts of wonder and excitement. I can’t wait to get to the day and see how this one unfolds. (I realize some of you don’t even wake up mentally until well after noon, so that’s when you might feel it.) And, as I lay my head down at night, I am not only overwhelmingly grateful for what God allowed me to experience that day, but also already looking forward to the one coming.

Some of you may chalk that up to the exciting life of a traveling author, as if this must be loads of fun. But honestly, that’s not what excites me, and my days are rarely easy or pain-free. The reason I’m excited to wake up each day is because I can’t wait to see who God might put in my path, or how he will sort out some unresolved thing in my life or someone I know around me.

Could this be what Jesus meant when he promised us the fullness of his life? He wasn’t talking about the ease of circumstance, or the fulfillment of our dreams, but the absolute adventure of walking through each day with him as his purpose slowly but surely unfolds in the circumstances and relationships around us. He is there in our simplest joys and in our most crushing circumstances, always inviting us closer, always transforming us so that we can live more freely in him. If this isn’t at least a piece of that abundant life, it is more like it than anything I’ve known to date.

 

Why Don’t We Want People to Follow?

The most incredible invitation Jesus made in his life among us was for each of us to simply follow him. For too much of my life, however, I thought following him meant that I subscribed to the principles and rituals of Christianity. Sure I had moments of knowing him even there, but they always faded away in the busyness of religious activity, which did more to wear me out than show me how to live in him.

As I read the New Testament, I’m blessed by how much the apostles reminded the early followers that they were not offering them a religion to observe, but inviting them into a living relationship with Jesus that would allow them to know his Father and participate in his unfolding grace in the world. “Our fellowship is with him!” “Believe what you hear.” “Follow me as I follow Christ.”

How is it that we have traded that adventure for services, doctrines and principles that promise a reality they can’t deliver? I regularly meet people who have been faithful elders, pastors, and participants in good religious institutions who grope around as if God does not speak to them and as if he is not able to transform them. They have no idea how to enjoy a relationship with a Father and his Son that gives them hope and direction in their darkest days and teaches them how live in his power instead of their own efforts. I’m thinking we didn’t make the best trade there.

If nothing else, that alone should make us question the religious activities and meetings that eat up so much of our lives and yet don’t equip us to live in the reality of the friendship he offered us. No wonder religion gets boring. The New Testament is replete with the invitation to follow him, not follow the dictates of a religious program. I even look back now and see how I discouraged people from trying to follow him. Sure they would make mistakes in learning to do so, but because I wanted to save them from those mistakes, I taught them to listen to me instead of continuing through the process of learning to listen to him. I didn’t mean to. I thought I was teaching them to follow him, but in the end, they only learned to listen to me. And that worked only as long as they liked what I said. When they didn’t, they just found someone else to tell them what they wanted to hear.

 

One Flock, One Shepherd

How much clearer could Jesus have been in John 10? He knows each of his sheep by name and leads them with his voice. That doesn’t seem too complicated. He connects with us; we follow him. That doesn’t seem like rocket science or something only a few gifted professionals could achieve. He went on to say that his sheep would know his voice so well that they wouldn’t follow a stranger. Is that ever true!

His sheep really do hear his voice; it’s just that they’ve been taught not to trust it. When they hear the voice of a stranger, it sounds wrong to them even if they can’t put their finger on exactly why. But that’s when they often get talked into ignoring what they know to be true inside. They are accused of independence, arrogance and rebellion to make sure they get back in line and don’t cause any trouble. Who are you to think you can know God? Do you have the training we have, or the anointing? Do you read Greek? Are you going to argue with the ‘wisdom passed down through the ages’?

As well meaning as some of that might be, it’s effect is to destroy people’s trust in Jesus as the one who wants to lead them, teach them, protect them and free them to live powerfully in his life. Leadership in the early church helped people learn how to walk with the living Jesus, not subvert that relationship by inserting themselves in its place. Doing so not only undermines spiritual growth, but also divides the body over the differing views of those who think they are leading his flock.

I love it when people tell me that something I read or said touched them deeply, not because it was new to them, but because it gave voice to something the Spirit had already been showing them for some time before. They were just afraid to believe it was true with all the religious voices telling them otherwise. The language of real fellowship will always make us more aware of his voice and less influenced by our desire to please people, especially leaders.

That’s why Jesus said we could be one flock with one shepherd. As long as we continue to have millions of people inserting themselves as the ones to follow, this family will continue to be fragmented. But that has been changing in recent years as an increasing number of people are simultaneously and spontaneously seeing through Christianity as the religion it has become and are learning again simply how to follow Jesus again, even when it goes against the grain of other people’s religious expectations of them.

I’ve been blessed to meet thousands of these people all over the world. They seem to be on the same adventure I’m on and when we connect our fellowship is immediate, deep and filled with life. And even though many of these people don’t fit into the traditional structures we’ve inherited in our day, they are not the independent or rebellious as others have described them. In fact, those learning to follow the Lamb have a deep desire for authentic fellowship with others and a desire to see the church emerge in our day as a true reflection of God’s glory in the world.

 

Spiritual Couch Potatoes?

Much has been written in national magazines over the last year about the growing disillusionment many are experiencing with institutionalized religion. They are reassessing their fruitfulness of the time, energy and finances that it takes to maintain buildings and sustain a staff that primarily runs programs for the faithful. Some are doing their best to help renew tired institutions, others are embracing new relational models hopeful that they will offer a better result, and many others are looking beyond all of that to find a dynamic life in Jesus and relationships with others that no model could ever contain.

Some have even belittled those they call the ‘out-of-church’ crowd calling them independent, spiritual couch potatoes. They say that without accountability to gifted leaders to keep them from error and to coordinate their efforts the church of Jesus Christ will end up weak and ineffective. Really? What does that say about Jesus’ ability (or should we say inability?) to raise up a flock after his own heart and release them to live and work together however he might desire? And why would we want to listen to those who have no trust in Jesus’ ability to change our lives?

These people have not seen the body of Christ that I have seen taking shape all over the world. Growing in dependence on Jesus rather than following programs crafted by a human leader, they are being powerfully transformed by his life and are making incredible impact in the world around them. And while the individual actions may not warrant magazine coverage, the sum total of the simple obedience of those believers is allowing God’s kingdom to be known in the world.

 

The Submitted Flock

Thomas Friedman, the New York Times political columnist wrote a book a few years ago, called The Lexus and the Olive Tree. In it he describes a fundamental shift in power from the political leaders of nation-states to what he called the electronic herd – the millions of individual investors who wake up every morning, turn on their computers and trade in stocks and currencies for their own financial gain.

They move millions if not billions of dollars each day to those places that the electronic herd trusts the most in returning a profit. Friedman asserted that this trend was so profound that power had already begun to shift away from governments and political leaders. In time nations will no longer be able to successfully manipulate their currency or economies, because when the electronic herd gets wind of it they will flee overnight to better investments.

I read that book years ago and found it shocking that people acting in their own self-interest could have such an impact on world events. Their power was derived from the sum total of their actions, not from any coordination between them, and yet they are economically restructuring our world. Lately that book has come back to mind as a parable of what is happening spiritually in the Father’s family. Jesus is raising up his own submitted flock – a people not making decisions every day in their own economic self-interest, but those who will simply respond to the Shepherd one action at a time, one person at a time, and in each situation as it comes.

Can you imagine the power of millions of individual believers from all over the world simply following the inclinations that Jesus would allow to grow in their hearts? I get a glimpse of that reality every day just by the folks I know. I hear incredible stories of lives being changed. I see Jesus’ hand as he connects people when he has a task for them to do together. I see a people more focused on doing what Jesus asks of them rather than building large programs or ministries to try to catch the attention of the world. They will go wherever he asks them to, link arms with other believers he invites to the same task and do it all without the need for power, self-glory or vocational provision. This is the picture Scripture paints, and those who aspire to work with him in this venture will not seek to replace him in people’s lives, but equip them to live it too.

I sit here today overwhelmed by what Jesus is doing in our world and almost laugh, thinking, of course it would be this way. He said it would. He would be the shepherd and all would follow him with his law written in their hearts. He never wanted us to follow the programs of men but learn to live in a growing trust in his ability to coordinate his body and love the world through us.

 

A People Like No Other

I realize some reading this article will be threatened by now that I would dare to encourage believers to follow Jesus as he leads them, rather than falling in line with one of the various institutions that claim to be preparing Christ’s body for the last days. They fear that if people are not obligated to join up, they will wither away in their own selfishness.

I understand why some people would feel that way. I know many who claim to be following Jesus and are only indulging their own self-interest. Instead of increasingly demonstrating his grace and truth, they turn out to be arrogant, isolated, and so filled with their own agenda they suffocate anyone near them. These are not those who are growing to know him, however. They are those who have reacted to religion by falling back into their own selfishness. God can rescue them, too, when they get weary of living that way.

But the fact that people can abuse the truth does not negate that truth. I’m not writing to those who want to use these words as an excuse to do whatever they feel like doing. I’m writing these words to encourage those who passionately want to know Jesus and be transformed by his life. Those people are finding that their freedom from religious activity is stirring them to a deeper passion for him and he grows more real in them with each passing day. And they also have an irresistible desire to connect with others who share that passion. They may not find them easily, but in time Jesus will connect them to others.

I see a vast group of people around the world learning to depend on him more each day. I am recognizing at least seven attributes that are increasing in them as they learn how to follow the Lamb wherever he goes:

  •     They live by the reality of love not by principles (John 13:34-35). As they respond to others with the same reality of love they have found in him for themselves, they know how to treat others around them in away that conveys the life of God to broken people and fellow travelers.
  •     They live with a growing trust in Father’s purpose and power, not out of fear (Romans 8). The more they live in the reality of God’s love the more obvious it becomes to them that God can be trusted with everything, and this freedom allows them to move through the world not looking out for their own good, but living by whatever Father gives them.
  •     They live at the Father’s pleasure not in the tyranny of fulfilling their own agendas (I Peter 4:1-2). Increasing trust means they no longer have to labor under the tyranny of what they think might be best. All they need to do is follow him, knowing that he will fulfill his purpose in them best when they are not trying to do it themselves.
  •     They trust in his power, not their own efforts (Philippians 3:1-14). Those who follow Jesus have given up any confidence they had in their own wisdom or their own ability to transform themselves or impact the world. The resultant humility allows them to speak the truth in love without being rude or pushing others to embrace their point of view.
  •     They live in the moment not in the anxiety of their imagined futures (Matthew 6/Luke 12). They know it is far easier to hear his voice in the moment and follow his lead when they are at rest on the inside. Most of our anxieties come from an imagined future in which God is not present. Having seen God time and again do the unexpected, they are confident that their whole lives are in his hands they do not worry about a future they cannot see. They know the best way for them to be where God wants them six months from now, is by following him today and see what doors he opens.
  •     They live in authentic expressions of community not in isolated independence or in prefabricated programs (I Corinthians 12-14). Their freedom in Jesus allow them to connect in relationships free of pretence and manipulation and find connecting with others of like passion to be an irresistible joy that encourages and inspires them to live more deeply in him.
  •     They live generously and graciously in the world, not seeking to exploit others with their own agenda (Mark 10:42-45). As they have learned to let God provide for them, they no longer need to use others, either to get what they want or to protect themselves from others. With a heart to help others openly God can make himself known through them in some fascinating ways and by doing so allow others to come to know who he is.

 

Live Free!

Like a field of wildflowers coming into their season, this submitted flock is blooming with God’s glory in the world. Every person can be part of it. Simply draw near to him continually and ask him to reveal himself to you. Take each situation you’re in and ask him to show you what it would mean for you to follow him in it. Then watch and listen over time as he makes his way clear to you.

If you know some other brothers and sisters near you who are learning to live this life as well, ask them to help you. Learn from them without making them a substitute for the walk Jesus wants to share with you.

Believe the growing convictions he puts on your heart and follow them as best you see them, being gracious to others as he shapes his image in you. Don’t worry about the mistakes you’ll make and don’t fall into the trap of thinking that any teaching or model of church life will ever replace his voice leading you.

That’s why I’m not on any bandwagon with those who claim they have God’s proven model for church life. When our focus is on following a model, even a good one, rather than following him, we’ll still miss out on how he is knitting this family together. If you’re pursuing house church, cell church or purpose-driven church instead of following him, you will miss those he might ask you to walk beside who are in more traditional congregations or in no formalized group at all.

The glory of life in him is not found in finding the best model to implement, the right principles to follow or even the most powerful rituals to observe. It is about knowing him as our older brother and friend, living in that relationship with His Father, and following him wherever you see him leading you.

Without that freedom, we’ll just be a group of Christians caught up in the boring and powerless religious activities that never bring life to us, much less help us touch the world around us. With the freedom to follow him with joy, Jesus can do anything he wants to do in us on any given day.

Isn’t that something worth waking up to?


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Manipulation

As I said in a previous post, I read C.S. Lewis’ novel, Til We Have Faces again over my recent vacation. What a story! Set in ancient Greek mythology, this work exposes some incredible truths about our misplaced anger at God our misunderstanding of the ways in which he works. I won’t ruin this fairy tale for you but it involves two stepsisters of royal blood in an ancient European kingdom. One is taken away and the older fears she is being deceived by a cruel beast or some vile criminal even though she assures her older sister that she is living in a beautiful palace and has come to find the lover her soul has longed for.

The older sister, Orual, comes to her and demands that she return home. When the younger refuses, she out a dagger and stabs herself in the arm. She assures her sister if she will not do what she demands of her that that she will kill her sister and take her own life in suicide. As you can imagine the younger sister, who has looked up to Orual as a surrogate mother is devastated that their love could be so twisted. This is how the younger sister answers…

“You are indeed teaching me about kinds of love I did not know. It is like looking into a deep pit. I am not sure whether I like your kind better than hatred. Oh, Orual, to take my love for you, because you know it goes down to the very roots and cannot be diminished by any other newer love, and then to make of it a tool, a weapon, a thing of policy and mastery, an instrument of torture—I begin to think I never knew you. Whatever comes after, something that was between us dies here.â€

The younger sister swears to do what she’s been told and it plunges her into ruin. When love becomes the excuse to manipulate others, even to do what we think is in their best interest, it becomes an instrument of torture not grace. How often religious leaders use the excuse, ‘We’re only doing this because we love you,’ to justify all manner of ultimatum, gossip and rejection. And you know what? I mostly think they’re convinced it’s true.

But true love never manipulates, never offers ultimatums, and it would prefer rather to be wronged than to wrong someone else in its name. Manipulating others for our own gain is one of the most ungodlike things we humans do to each other and tragically we mostly do it in his name.

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Church Planting

A few days ago, I received a circular email from a website that helps with ‘church planting. I don’t usually respond to such things, but this time I just felt inclined to do so. The statement that caught my eye in the email was: “Church planting is one of the strategies used by the Apostle Paul to grow the early church and even today studies tell us that it is the most effective way to impact a community with the Gospel of Jesus Christ.” So I wrote back with just a one-liner, “I’m not sure I agree with the premise here…” The following conversation ensued, beginning with his response to me:

You are welcome to discuss it on my forum if you have questions.

That’s fine… Got too much email now. I just didn’t want to let the assumption blow by…

Okay, however, the statement is not an assumption, but a conclusion based on Scripture and research. Just wanted to clarify your mischaracterization…

Clarify away… I don’t mind a bit.

But what you may consider a ‘conclusion based on Scripture and research’ may still be an ‘assumption based on Scripture and research’. I find no language in Acts or in Paul’s letters that speak of a ‘strategy to plant churches’. Do you? And if it isn’t there, then it is a speculation about his strategy, not a given conclusion.

Isn’t it just as likely to characterize Paul’s travels and teaching not purposed to plant churches, but to spread the gospel and make disciples? I think that is stated far more clearly. The churches he identified and visited later could have been just the fruit of doing the former things that Jesus clearly asked his followers to do. In my view you can plant all the churches you want and never see true discipleship happen or true community. God knows I’ve visited hundreds of those. But you can’t teach people how to walk with the King and not see the reality of church life spring up all around you.

The distinction may sound like semantics, but I don’t think it is and thought it was worth noting or I wouldn’t have responded to you…

But you’re free to see it differently. Many do!

I don’t disagree with anything you wrote in the second paragraph and as a matter of fact I think you are absolutely right. I would add that the same can be said for house churches or any group that calls itself a church! If we do not put first the preaching of the Gospel (which includes the call to discipleship) then all our efforts are in vain.

As to Paul’s strategy to plant, no there is nothing much in Scripture that gives a specific strategy to plant, but of course you also realize there is nothing in there about his strategy for house churches. So I guess we are both in trouble huh? 🙂

Seriously though, let me ask, what exactly do you see as the assumption? What part of the statement do you find to be in conflict with Scripture?

I’m not really a house church guy, so I’m not sure I’m in trouble there. 😉 I see Jesus’ church take on a number of living expressions when people learn to follow him first and love each other second. House church is one of those. And I think it can be done incredibly well. But I also think it can be done with incredible religion and pain.

The assumption I was referring to is that church planting was a strategy Paul used to grow the early church, or that it is the most effective way to impact a community with the Gospel of Jesus. I don’t see them ‘in conflict’ with Scripture as much as I see assigning a priority to them that Scripture doesn’t assign. I’m not saying it is unscriptural, but at least it is extra-scriptural. The fruit of something doesn’t necessarily prove the intent. That churches sprang up in most places Paul frequented is a fact and they all seemed to be based around homes. For example, many people point to the characteristics of the early church in Acts, saying that if we duplicated their life, we’ll experience the same reality. I would argue that their life in Jesus, produced a certain relational reality among them. You can’t imitate the fruit and have the fruit. You have to have the same LIFE in Jesus that they had. That life will produce the expressions of community that Jesus wants. I don’t see that it works the other way around.

This is not a major point for me, and I don’t consider that we are deeply estranged over this. I see it as a matter of emphasis, and I thought I’d respond to your first note just to get you thinking a bit. In the end you may stay with your conclusion and I’ll not lose any sleep over that and hope you don’t.

Wayne, thanks for your thoughtful response. I sense there is a lot of wisdom in what you write. All I can say is that I will need to really think about it and spend some more time reading Scripture.

In my own thinking, The Scripture says that faith comes from hearing and hearing from the proclamation of God’s Word. I take the term “planting” to mean the sowing of God’s seed (His Word) into a community and growing a church from that seed. So in the broadest sense, I understand Paul’s mission to the Gentiles was to go from city to city, preach the Word, and establish a local gathering of believers. That is how I see church planting. Obedience to God’s call to enter an area where the Gospel needs to be preached and then establishing a congregation for the purpose of growing those followers to full maturity of faith.

Again, this is a rough summary of what I have in mind when I talk about planting a church. I will try and weigh this in the balance of what you have shared with me.

Thanks for taking time to share with me brother! I appreciate your willingness to offer some loving admonition and correction.

I appreciate your spirit in talking through all this. But I wasn’t trying to admonish or correct, just offer a different view of things that may nor may not be helpful to your journey.

You’re rough summary of planting a church is better than most, and I like much of it. But it still has some weaknesses by focusing on a priority that I would consider to be a fruit not an objective. I know few ‘established’ congregations that really help believers experience full maturity. Most times the effort over ‘gathering’ and ‘forming’ suck up the life of believers wanting to grow rather than actually helping them do that. I realize there are exceptions to this, but they are exceptions. I hope you have some fun with Jesus sorting through this as he continues to lead you on. In the end, Jesus told us to proclaim the gospel and make disciples, and he would build his church. We do seem to get that backward. When we take it our ourselves to build the church, discipleship rarely happens and the demands of the institution almost always seem to overrun the relational realities the church needs to flourish. In the end, I think Paul returned to those cities to help them see what Jesus was doing to build the church in his area, and helped them recognize it, rather than to impose an organizational model from outside. That’s why they seemed to develop very differently in different communities.

I’ll give you an example of this. When I taught ‘church planting’ teams for an international missions group, I would break the class up into small groups the first day. I told them they were ‘church planting’ teams. They chose the country and city and then I gave them an hour to sort out the questions they would need to resolve as they were getting started. Their concerns and questions all revolved around finance, building rental, publicity, statements of faith and all the other things that go with a corporate endeavor.

Two days later I broke them into the same teams, told them they were going into the same city, but this time not to plant a church but to demonstrate who Jesus is to the people and help them learn how to follow him. The questions and issues they came up with from that assignment was remarkably different and far more powerful. Now it was about meeting people, getting jobs that would link them to the community, learning how to share their faith naturally not artificially and how to help people connect in a real way with him. Finances, buildings and publicity never came up. That’s the difference I’m talking about, if that makes sense.

I’ve had fun thinking through this again with you. Thanks for being so open…

All good points and I think you are right on! I love that exorcise and will use it with our own people. It is hard in the US not to get hung up on the stuff, and I have tried to do some things to keep us more focused on people and relationships, but it is always difficult to keep the first things first. An exercise like the one you share could be a big help to me.

That’s great! It’s always hard to keep the main thing the main thing!

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We’re Back!

Well, our blissful vacation on the Olympic Peninsula ended early because of the constant shelling of our quiet seaside cottage by the neighbors on the hill behind us, who started celebrating July 1 with thousands of dollars of fireworks that began in the late morning and continued well past midnight on one evening. And it wasn’t even the Fourth yet.

And I’m not talking about a few bottle rockets or some firecrackers, here. I’m talking about the full-on huge starburst explosions that you see generally only at stadiums and community events—scores of them, one after the other exploding over our roof. When Sara and I passed through a Native American reservation about 20 miles short of our destination and saw dozens of firework stands, I wondered if that would be a problem… I had no idea they were selling the really big stuff.

Sara and I could handle it, but our 10 year-old Shepherd could not. She was in a constant state of panic, so we left early and drove home on Sunday and Monday. We actually made it from Eugene, Oregon to Moorpark in one 14 hours stretch on Monday, a distance of 858 miles. Sara drove all but the last 100 miles of that. She’s nuts!

The sudden end, however, didn’t destroy the awesome time we had. We had lots of time just to be together, to read looking over the sea, to hike through the Olympic National Forest to high mountain lakes and waterfalls with our dogs romping on the trail ahead of us. And we didn’t end our vacation, just because we got home. We still laid low, worked on some household projects and continued to enjoy our break. But today, we’re phasing back in and starting to wade into the mountain of things that has piled up in my absence. I thought I’d get a jump on them

And continuing the theme of the latest podcast released today, I thought I’d let you know what I’ve been reading during this veg vacation—my favorite kind! In addition to the magazines I brought along, my book list turned out to be quite an eclectic mix. I arrived still finishing a novel of Vatican intrigue called The Third Secret, which I enjoyed except for the last 10 pages, and Don Miller’s, Searching for God Knows What, which in the end I didn’t enjoy nearly as much as his first, Blue Like Jazz. Then I read an unpublished manuscript called Divine Nobodies by Jim Palmer, which will be published later this year. I really enjoyed the honesty and humor of someone’s journey shaking fee of religion to embrace a real relationship with Jesus. Then it was onto Robert McCullough’s 1776, which was not at all what I expected. It is the story of Washington’s Continental Army through that year. It was riveting and I was shocked at how little I knew of the war of revolution during that time. Next up was C.S. Lewis’ ‘Til We Have Faces, which I consider to be his best fiction. It’s a story I’ve read four times before, but it had been 20 years since the last reading. What a story! I’m going to quote a piece from it in a future blog. Finally I started a Michael Chrichton Novel, State of Fear about global warming.

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Getting It

I’m on vacation in the Pacific Northwest, but got this email yesterday. I said I wouldn’t write blogs while I’m gone, but I guess it’s OK to let others write them for me. I got this email yesterday and my prayer is that it would give hope to others who are still trying to fill their desire for relationship with God by some kind of expression of “church”, be it home or some other variety. I love it when God finally draws the lines in someone’s heart that he has been laying for some time and they realize it is him they have been seeking all their lives long. This is why I say that whatever expression of church God plants us in must flow out of the growing relationship he wants to have with us. If not, it will just be another substitute. Daniel from Florida expressed a a bit of this process better

I left organized religion last year after several years of God exposing many issues to me and I was directed to your site a few months ago by a guy at an online bookstore. After e-mailing back and forth with you once or twice I decided that you were totally missing it because I was on a direct path to the home church thing and you said that home church is not the answer so I moved on. My wife and kids along with another family started a home church thing, after a short time it totally flopped. Then, after reading the Jake book and a time of listening to the podcasts, and then reading He Loves Me, I grew more and more frustrated because you clearly say that it is possible to have a real daily relationship with God and I was not getting it. The last two days I have been listening to the Transition thing, then just last night I woke up at 2:00 AM and listened to disc 7 and 8 of transition, and by 3:00 AM I was having a terrific time with Father and started getting it. I wanted to say thank you for making the transition thing free on mp3. God exposed several things to me early this morning and I could literally feel Him there with me. I realize that hye loves me and I am excited about this journey. Life is more awesome today than I ever imagined, which is odd because the area I live in is in the middle of a drought and I own/operate a small rain gutter business and nobody buys rain gutters in a drought and I do not know at this point if I will have a business when it is over. I have had a lot of time to look at my life and have to trust God. But in the midst of that, I am excited about today.

Don’t think the same process may work for you, just keep looking to Jesus, knowing he will draw together whatever pieces will help you get it too! He wants to know you more than you want to know him. It’s just that he has to get through lots of baggage to make that real. And he is extremely patient even when we wander around chasing our own ideas.

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